I’ve seen some posts by people trying to downplay all the Women’s Marches as merely being about impotently protesting Trump only.
These marches are about SO MUCH MORE than protesting one man.
Why are women being vilified for wanting to be regarded as being of equal value as men are in society?
There seems to be a knee-jerk reaction when women report having been treated unfairly or having seen such. For some weird reason, this is interpreted as “hating men”. We are told there’s “no need” for the feminist movement, and that women who support that movement are to be feared and hated.
(Swap the ‘w’ for a ‘b’ and you’ll see the REAL reason women who practiced herbal medicine and lived outside the strictures of patriarchal society were persecuted, hunted down and slaughtered as “witches”)
Well, there most certainly IS a need for the feminist movement because:
When a woman shows up in the ER, her level of pain must be SIGNIFICANTLY higher than a comparable male’s in order for her to be taken seriously that it’s not somehow ‘all in her mind’.
Women’s heart attack symptoms are SIGNIFICANTLY different than a male’s, yet the only symptoms shown in mainstream media are male symptoms – resulting in fewer women being able to self-identify when they are having a heart attack and fewer people around them taking their symptoms seriously.
Those are just two examples. Here’s another:
How many women have experienced this: whether in work, school, in a relationship or social/other setting, if a woman has an idea it gets downplayed, ridiculed, ignored, but afterwards, if a male voices that same idea, it gets lauded as though it were the most brilliant idea, despite the male most likely having merely copied the idea from the female that voiced it first.
How many times have we seen the military being portrayed in TV/movies like this: The drill sergeant addresses the new recruits: “Listen up, ladies!” or compares them to “women” in a way that indicates being like a woman is somehow weak, inferior, of less value than being a man.
Men are so terrified to be equated with women, that men who are sexually assaulted (whether by another man or by a woman), or who are the victims of domestic violence, are seldom able to report this to the authorities for fear of being seen as occupying a “lesser” role – the “female” role. And the ones who do bravely attempt to report this, sadly often find themselves being re-victimized by the authorities (as they do to victims of both genders), whether by outright ridicule or by disbelief, because supposedly “real men” don’t get raped or abused, only the “weaker” sex – women – do.
From a very young age, boys are programmed by society to not express “feminine” emotions or preferences. “Boys don’t cry. Men don’t cry.” “Pink is for girls, blue is for boys.” “Superheroes are for boys, princesses are for girls.” “Dolls are for girls, only the mother should take care of the baby/kids.” “Housework is women’s work.”
“Girls aren’t good at math.”
(Go see the movie “Hidden Figures” to disprove that one.)
Practically any industry or occupation that was initially male dominated (due to societal discrimination against women), was respected and thought highly of. After society relaxed it’s prohibition against women entering the workplace and women began entering those professions, whether teaching, cooking, computer programming, real estate, the sciences, men began disdaining those professions as suddenly not being “as hard as” other still-male-dominated professions, despite the women working just as hard as, and in some cases, even harder, than the men in those professions had.
When men then began to enter previously female-dominated professions that had been ridiculed as being “women’s work” and therefore less respected, those men were ridiculed for doing “women’s work”…until a large enough percentage of men had entered that industry, then suddenly those professions gained respect and legitimacy in the eyes of society: nursing, for example.
When a woman has a legitimate grievance, she is blown off and asked if she’s having “that time of the month”. When a man has a grievance, there is no brushing it off as being due to temporary hormonal surges and therefore not worth paying any heed to, regardless of the legitimacy of the grievance.
Men who lead are praised as having executive leadership abilities. Women who lead are called “bossy” and “bitches”.
Trump is only the very visible, very loudmouthed, tip of the iceberg. Women weren’t protesting and marching “only” against Trump, they were protesting against the entire iceberg that taken as a whole is harmful to both women AND men.
And that is why we need feminism.
Not because we want to “feminize” men, but because sexism, misogyny and prejudice against women and stereotypically “feminine” characteristics (whether exhibited by women OR men) is wrong.
And don’t even get me started on the globally pervasive (sometimes even directed at hetero folks) homophobia that is also a result of “feminine” characteristics being deemed “weak” and “wrong” for men, and “masculine” characteristics being deemed “strong” and “wrong” for women!
I was chatting recently with another mama friend who’s questioning a lot of things lately, particularly religion and some of the dogmatic beliefs that unfortunately can be a part of many worship communities. And it called to mind my own ‘wake-up call’ in 2012 when my mind was opened just enough to let the Light in – and I saw my “church” in a whole new way.
It was cataclysmic for me and I have sympathy for my friend because I knew something of what she was going through and would continue to go thru as she tries to make order of a world thrown topsy-turvy when she realized that the dogmatic beliefs she’d been following were there to control and constrain her growth, not to nurture it.
It inspired me to draw a little comic strip about some of what I experienced (I’m NOT a great artist.) and I thought – go big or go home – and made it into a little vid on youtube. Hope you enjoy it. 😀
Civilized comments are welcome. 😀
Cheesehat: A Mouse’s Tale – Discovering life beyond the confines of dogmatic belief systems.
I just read the most unbelievable article, and sadly, it’s actually VERY
Basically, as though Starbucks coffee at $5 a pop wasn’t pricey enough, you can (if you’re evil) get “Civet Coffee” for $100 a pop. (or $300 for a pound of beans). But not from Starbucks, nope. You get it from demented, evil people somewhere.
Apparently, someone was strolling through the Indonesian rainforest one day, and noticed a coffee bean on the ground (I’m conjecturing here) and sniffed it, ground it up and brewed it and thought it had pretty decent “caramel” notes to the bouquet or something (I’m not a barista, can you tell?) and went back for more, only to find that the bean had been pooped out of the nether end of a civet – sort of a rainforest mongoose-like creature. Supposedly, the bean “fermented” while going through the critter’s digestive system and came out tasting pretty damn fine at the other end of the “supply chain”.
Logically, (according to SOMEONE’S logic – sure ain’t Mr. Spock’s logic, though) they thought that if only they could capture and cage the civets under horrific, inhumane conditions and full-time force-feed the coffee beans, that are usually only an occasional part of their diet, that they could repeat the “magic” and make money hand over fist from folks with too many dollars and not enough sense (cents – ha-ha? Pun, anyone?)
And I’m wondering, is this some kind of a DIY thing? Has anyone tried feeding, I dunno, their CAT some coffee beans and seeing if what pops out the other end in any way, shape or form resembles “caramel”? Honey, that ain’t “caramel”, it’s POOP!!! Get a pet or baby if you want that stuff and I guarantee that you’ll be up to your ears in it, in no time!
(By the way, just to be perfectly clear, I am in no way, shape or form suggesting that anyone feed their child, pet or any other living being something or too much of something that the living being would not normally be fed for an optimally healthy diet. Doing nasty things like that to living beings is wrong, wrong, wrong, SO wrong! Don’t do it! I’m also not suggesting that anyone should put anything that’s been in any being’s poop, in their mouth! And I’m also not suggesting that anyone get a pet or baby for the purpose of making them poop out coffee beans or anything else they wouldn’t normally be defecating. Gawd, why do I even have to put a disclaimer like this? Unfortunately, it’s rather likely that there’ll be at least one idjit out there who’d otherwise take these jokes as wonderful ideas and try to implement it unless they had it pointed out to them that that’s NOT A GOOD THING TO DO. smh)
As for caramel – why the hell is anyone torturing poor little civets to get “caramel” flavor in their coffee?!
Either just make it in your own kitchen with vanilla extract, sugar and water, or buy some cheap at the candy store and stir it into your cup o’ java!
Please people – boycott the hell out of this sh—ty product!
“Caramel”, my ass — oh wait, pardon, “caramel”, the CIVET’S ass!
Oh My Flipping Gerbils! Now I’m convinced the world’s gone nutters with a vengeance!
When I was newly pregnant with my twins, one of the first things I had to shop for was the best prenatal vitamin. I read article after article, read reviews, asked other parents and researched the recommendation of my OB/GYN (who I later ditched because of their callous attitude). I reached saturation point on info about iron levels, side effects (constipation, yippee! :D), folate vs. folic acid, fillers, synthetic vs. organic, zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz. LOL! 😀
Yep, there’s a bit more involved than just casually accepting whatever the doctor (who might be receiving incentives for certain recommendations) hands you, but the research you invest in something so vital to you and your baby’s health is time well spent.
Anyhoo, during my vitamin quest one day, another mama had posted an article mentioning that Gwyneth Paltrow was practically ecstatic about one particular brand of prenatal vitamin. In fact, she loved it so much that she was taking it even when she wasn’t pregnant. Huh?
I’m not one to rush out and buy a product based on a (probably compensated) celebrity say-so, but what caught my interest was that New Chapter Organics Perfect Prenatal Vitamins were organic. Not only that, many of the sources from which the vitamins in the tablet were derived, were from whole food sources and involved fermentation. This was intriguing and I decided to look into this prenatal product.
After quite a lot of research, I’d decided that this was the one for me! Then breathed a HUGE sigh of relief that that topic of research was finally over with. 😀
I took the vitamins, I didn’t have any constipation problems, the babies turned out fine, case closed, right?
Because now it’s a very tough 9 years later (twins!) and I find that I still don’t feel I’m ‘back on my feet’, so to speak. Guess what? Apparently “Post-Natal Depletion” is also a very real thing.
I’ve actually been hearing a lot from other mamas who likewise still feel like something the cat dragged in, even several years later, post-partum. And speaking of post-partum – apparently post-partum depression can linger on for YEARS after giving birth! (And is exacerbated by post-natal depletion.) A lot of mamas also suffer from self-esteem issues when they don’t bounce back quickly after giving birth, or even after the kids are finally school-ready.
Well, when you’re consistently operating under a post-natal depletion deficit for years, you’re not going to be feeling the greatest. Simply getting your regular pre-pregnancy intake levels of nutrients isn’t going to be enough. You also need to replenish the used-up stores of nutrients in your body that had been stockpiling for years before pregnancy occurred. And if you’ve had more than one pregnancy, that deficit is going to get depleted even more with each subsequent pregnancy.
So even though I’m not planning on having any more children, I will be using New Chapter Organics Perfect Prenatal Vitamins to help me replenish myself. +++
How about you? Do you have a particular favorite prenatal vitamin? While you were researching pregnancy or baby-related topics did you come across any startling new info? Please comment below and share with us. Thank you! 😀
Happy Holidays everyone, and PLEASE – Mamas especially – take GOOD care of yourselves! You deserve it!
**This post is a sponsored partnership with Nakturnal. The opinions expressed above and specific product recommendation are entirely my own.
+++ This post is opinion only and does not constitute medical advice. Please consult with a trusted medical professional to ascertain what levels of nutritional supplements would be most appropriate for your individual medical situation.