Yep, it’s another post about our ongoing trials and travails in getting our twins disciplined.
The girls will be 4 years old in a month, and unfortunately getting to be a bit spoiled. I’m sure that the 1-2-3 Magic! system by Dr. Thomal Phelan is the right one for us – it seems to not be antithetical to Attachment Parenting, or our own church’s teachings, and it doesn’t resort to physical punishment – a big plus, as far as we’re concerned!
Round One had promising results after just one week, but then my husband and I got cocky and slacked off a bit and then we all slid into chaos.
Round Two was harder, as the girls really pushed the envelope, testing our limits, and we kind of were driven crazy by them and sorta slacked off.
Round Three was even harder, as the girls – flush from their previous victory over Mommy & Daddy, went all out in testing us. They resorted to sneaky tactics that I never imagined a 3 year old was capable of! Halle would dawdle at dinnertime, constantly getting up from the table to play…until bedtime! And then when we had had enough – she cheerily announced that she was about to commence eating her BROCCOLI!!!
And the other day, I caught Halle practicing her ‘sad’ face in the mirror, and her ‘crying face’ and others she likes to use to weasel out of being disciplined and laughing in between each pose!
So last night, after the girls were FINALLY asleep, my husband and I had a Council Of War.
We decided that this time, we would have a Zero Tolerance Policy in regards to enforcing the rules.
We even made a big poster for our living room that says so! We’ve got the rules listed – 5 “Start” behaviors, and 5 “Stop” behaviors that we want to focus on.
A “Start” behavior is one we would like the twins to start doing, such as picking up all their toys before bedtime.
And a “Stop” behavior is one we want the twins to stop doing, such as asking the same question a million times in hopes that if they ask it until Mommy & Daddy’s brains go numb, they might get lucky and we’ll give a different answer.
My husband was very optimistic about all this, as though by simply having large posters in our living room would magically get the rules enforced all by themselves!
But two days later, we actually have noticed a bit of improvement. Somehow the twins can sense a change in the air or somehow smell our strengthened parental resolve. While they still break the rules quite a bit, it’s to a much lesser degree than previously. We also are able to spend more positive time as a family, as a result.
So we’re going to stick with it, and hopefully it’ll all work out this time. I’m getting pretty darn tired of dealing with wild orangutan babies instead of little girls!