On the last day of school this year, Zanna’s teacher Mrs. K announced that she’d be moving up from teaching Pre-K to Kindergarten, and that the entire class would move with her!
This means that Zanna will have an extra year with the same teacher, classmates, learning style, etc.
Halle’s teacher Mrs. G, however, will be remaining in Pre-K.
This means that come autumn, Halle will have a new teacher and classmates, etc. to get used to.
And Kindergarten is full-day here.
I wondered if it might be a good idea to have Halle in with Zanna for the new school year. Mrs. K seemed to be more aggressive academically than Mrs. G had been (although Mrs. G had the patience of a saint when it came to Halle’s need to explore her individuality vs. whatever the class was doing), and then the twins would have each other for support.
But then a few points were raised during family discussion on the issue. Not only were there concerns of the twins reverting back to their co-dependancy that had us splitting them up in school in the first place, but also the fact that Zanna already had established relationships with her classmates – “her” friends. We had strong concerns that Halle would feel like a fifth wheel with all of the other kids in the class, and it would hinder her in forming her own bonds with the other children.
So at last we decided that we’ll keep the twins in separate classes a while longer. I had a chat with Mrs. K and she assured me that in Kindergarten all the teachers are pretty much on the same page academically, and that needn’t be a concern for us, although she’d gladly welcome Halle if I insisted.
So now I’ve got Zanna, who’s all excited to be going back to school with all her friends, and Halle, who’s expressed some trepidation that she’ll be having a new teacher, new classmates, a new FULL-day schedule.
I’ve tried playing up the positive points: she might have some of her old classmates with her, and she’ll get to eat lunch with the other children every day! But she’s not sold on the idea.
So we’ll just have to be extra supportive of her during this time of transition, while also juggling Zanna’s emotional needs, so the balance between the two doesn’t get out of whack. We try so hard to fulfill both of their different needs without any rivalry or jealousy springing up, or claims of favoritism. It’s not easy, but so far they get along together pretty well, so I guess we haven’t warped them beyond repair yet.
With any luck we’ll manage to keep both of them from needing any therapy in the future! 🙂