Category Archives: 3rd grade

We’re running out of teeth!

Last night, one of my girls put out a newly fallen tooth for collection by our favorite tooth fairy, Agnes.


Agnes, along with her cohorts in the tooth-collection biz, Bianca, Consuela, Francesca and The Haz-Mat Fairy, has been steadily retrieving my twins’ teeth for several years now. (Except for that one incident when a government agent tried to horn in on the tooth-collection industry, but we don’t talk about that.)

Agnes, in her note to my daughter, remarked a bit sadly that soon there won’t be any teeth for her to collect, but she assured Z that they would always remain friends.

My girls are going to be 9 in July.  I count us as being very, very fortunate that the twins still believe in magical beings like tooth fairies, the Easter Bunny, Santa Clause, etc.  While it’d sure be nice to keep things going for much longer, I’m well aware that we are on borrowed time, belief-wise.  All too soon, one of their classmates will make a concentrated effort to burst the bubble of sweet innocence that my children have enjoyed, and introduce them to the cold, hard light of cynicism and disbelief.

In the meantime, though, my girls will continue to blithely enjoy the brief peeks into a world that is not outside the realm of extreme possibility, where anything can happen and where friendship truly IS magic!


Indigo Dreams: Awesome Music/Nature Sounds for Meditation for kids (and mama too!)

Recently I’ve been getting into meditation.

If you asked me, even a year ago, to try meditating, I’d have given you a big ol’ eyeroll and heavy sigh.  “Meditation? BO-RING!!!”  But some time around September 2015, along with a great many other people’s uptick in interest of various things metaphysical, I decided to give it a shot.

Well, compared to past attempts at it, I was a little better at sitting still, but my mind was still a bit of a racecourse for speeding gerbils.  Not very relaxing, though I tried.  I really wanted in on the various global meditations for world peace that were going on – we sure could use a bit more of that stuff, am-I-right-or-am-I-right?

indigo relax

Then another mama online mentioned that an MP3 album on Amazon – “Indigo Dreams: Rainforest Relaxation” (right now it’s free to listen to for Prime members) was great for helping her kids relax and get to sleep!  Wild horses couldn’t have stopped me from test-driving that one! 😀   Being a good mama, of course I tried it out on myself and decided to see how it went for relaxing me during a try at meditation.

Wow, yeah! It was certainly relaxing!  In fact, it was SO relaxing, I was able to have myself a little mama nap! 😀 (I love those!)

So I started having little meditation sessions with the kids – Z was bored and wandered off, but H took to it like a duck to water.  I noticed that she seemed to have better control of her temper afterwards too!

So have I tried it on them at bedtime?  Not yet, actually.  I can’t let them have the kindle (tablet) in their room at night, they’d just start playing Minecraft, lol!  And it’s a bit of a bother to transfer it from the computer to their MP3 player, but I guess I gotta get of my butt and get that done, huh?  I’ll update after I’ve done that and seen how well it zonks out the kids. 😀

The Truth About “Witches”

About a week or so ago, my daughter H- had attempted to read one of the junior Goosebumps books that they have in class…and found out that she’s not quite ready for books of that nature. She was upset by it and said it would give her bad dreams. So I told her to just avoid those types of books. She did have an interest in thrilling, spooky stories, but that, apparently, was biting off more than she could chew.


Yesterday, she came home somewhat upset about a book that’s now being read for storytime to her class, about “witches”.  (Roald Dahl’s “The Witches”) Among the points brought up in the book was that “witches” could be anywhere – her teacher could be one, (her mother could be one – and what fun that was trying to explain to her that I was NOT a “witch”.)

I tried to set her straight on some of the common myths and misconceptions that are usually being spread about early feminists and women skilled in herbal medicine, or who did not comply with the restrictive social mores of the past regarding how women were to behave under the rule of male-dominated, sexist and misogynistic society, and yes – the minority of actual Wiccans/witches who were caught up in that.

In fact, if you substitute the letter “b” for the “w” in the word “witches”, the sexism and misogyny that was aimed at women who did not conform, becomes quite clear – and we can still see evidence today that that has continued.

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Watching a movie like the classic “Bell, Book & Candle” (starring Kim Novak, Jimmy Stewart and Jack Lemmon) as a child is a lot different than watching it as an adult and viewing it through the eyes of understanding that the myths perpetuated about such women were attacks on feminism – a woman choosing not to marry or not making a man the center of her existence somehow equates to being a cold-hearted, manipulative “witch” (and you can substitute the “b” there), and when she finally does fall in love (or get married), she *loses her power*. Because yes, women were not allowed by men, for much of human history, to have any real personal autonomy or “power”, or be able to vote, own property, be credited as inventors, have ownership over her own sexuality, reproductive freedom, etc…


Calling a woman a “bi—“ is a way of setting society against her, a way of pushing her down, making her ashamed (or scared) of being independent, of being a leader, not falling in line with misogynistic/sexist ideals of the stereotypical subservient woman who would never *dream* of disagreeing with or challenging a man’s domination, and justifying all sorts of bullying, harassment, and criminal behavior against such women. “The bi— had it coming to her!” How many times have women been raped (which is an act of domination and power more than it is sexual), and been blamed for somehow “deserving” or “inviting” it, due to the misogyny and sexism that is still rampant in our society today? How many women have even been killed for being thought of as somehow thwarting a man’s “rightful” entitlement to do with her as he pleases?

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I’m sure that if you’ve heard anything about the Salem witch trials, you know that the majority of women targeted, tortured and killed were the victims of false accusations – no “witchcraft” or anything even resembling it was even involved in many cases.

The trials were unfairly rigged against them and have horrifying similarities to methods employed in the Spanish Inquisition. A lot of people were unfairly targeted by false accusation in that as well, mostly so the church/state could seize assets and property.


For example: the myth that a witch can “float” (swim) on water. How many women faced the Catch-22 of that: be thrown into a lake to drown (and be posthumously deemed innocent), or swim (or actually float, depending on their water skills or bodily fat content) thereby “proving” their supposed guilt. And the myth that a “witch” can’t bleed in certain areas of her body if pricked? Pricking devices with retractable pins insured that everyone so tested would fail, other professional “witch prickers” would gleefully prick away with actual pins – when a non-bleeding “witchmark” couldn’t be found, it was claimed that the devil had removed it to hide the “fact” that the woman was a “witch”.


Even in fairy tales, women with no “magical” powers whatsoever were lumped into the category of “witches”, even some with obvious mental disorders – the “witch” in Hansel and Gretel, for example. Yes, she was severely disordered – cannibalism is a horrible thing…but so is abandoning two children in the woods to leave them to either starve to death or become the prey of wild animals. Hansel and Gretel’s parents, however, are viewed in a tragic/sympathetic light, and not as the actual monsters they were. (One wonders if the origin of that story even had a cannibalistic woman in it anyway – that might just have been taking poetic license to turn a predatory animal attack (which places the abuse squarely on the heads of the parents who exposed the children to that situation) to an attack by a cannibalistic “witch” (thereby deflecting the accusation of “monster” away from the parents and onto that “witch”, and even adding a little victim-blaming by suggesting it is the childrens’ own greed for treats (or food in this case, as the children were starving) that led to their predicament.)


And of course, the Halloween season is absolutely rife with misconceptions of the Wiccan religion and modern real-life witches. Yes, there may be some practitioners among them that may be involved in dark things, but just as not every Christian is an active member of the KKK, most Wiccans/Pagans/modern-day witches are not involved in that end of their religion’s/practice’s spectrum.

“Yes,” I explained to H-, her teacher or anyone else could very well be a “witch”, or rather what sexists and misogynists would view as a “bi—“, or she could even be a Wiccan – but there is NOTHING wrong with being either of those!

Essentially, the book that is being read to the children in class, is perpetuating harmful and untrue myths, stereotypes and intolerance about strong, capable women, modern-day witches and Wiccans.

To extrapolate, during the winter season, I’m wondering will there also be a book perpetuating the harmful and untrue myths, stereotypes and intolerance toward Jews? Like the old bit about Jews eating Christian babies? (I remember when I was a child getting physically assaulted by Christian kids (in NJ) for being Jewish because of crap their parents were telling them at home.)

Or at Thanksgiving, will there be books calling Native Americans, “Indians” and perpetuating the dehumanizing myths about Native Americans being “savages” that conveniently leaves out the Trail of Tears, or that the U.S. government (being truly savage themselves) supplied them with blankets that were deliberately infected with smallpox?


I would like to respectfully implore anyone out there who is in charge of picking books to read to impressionable children to consider choosing a book that does not promote religious intolerance, sexism, misogyny and harmful stereotypes that have continued to be spread for way too long.

It gave H- bad dreams about “witches” that even my talk with her could not dispel.

To make things simple on her, as an 8 yr old third-grader, I told her to just read another book during storytime. If the teacher objected, she could tell the teacher “I don’t agree with the message in that book.” If the teacher needs further explanation, she can add: “Just switch the “w” with a “b” in “witches”, and you’ll understand why.”

**UPDATE: After emailing H-‘s teacher to ask about the book being read in class, I received a reply from her stating that she would not continue reading it to the class.**



**Author’s note: after writing the above article, which can be a touchy subject for many, I sought feedback from modern-day witches, Wiccans, feminists and other moms. A slight tweaking was needed, but otherwise the general consensus was that the subject matter was being treated respectfully and fairly.  If you feel this is not the case, please let me know and I will take your views under consideration.

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